probably asking yourself, “Why would anyone want to push their goals
away?” After all, our goals represent what we want in our life, right?
It would seem so, but in reality, we often set ourselves up to fail
every time we think about a goal or even just something we want to have
or do in our lives.
Colleen thinks to herself, “I would really
like to own my own home-based business” (the goal). Then, instead of
basking in the good feelings associated with that worthy ideal, the
very next thought that comes into her mind is “How will I ever do it? I
have to take care of the kids and all.” She has literally
the goal away in her mind even before it had a chance to settle in.
thinks, “I’d really like to drop a few pounds and get in better shape”
(the goal). Then, before his sub-conscious has a chance to work on
attracting the goal to him, he thinks, “That will be hard and will take
up even more of my time. I don’t have enough time as it is now.”
two cases above are typical examples of how we often push our goals
away, usually before they even have time to germinate. You think to
yourself, “I’d like a new car.” The very next thought is, “That’s
ridiculous! I can’t even afford the car I have now. How can I get a new
If you want to live a magical life, attracting your
goals to you and being able to enjoy what you want in your life, you
must first change this "knee jerk" reaction. We all do this to some
extent until we become aware of it and start taking specific actions to
Whenever the little voice in your head rears its
ugly head, tell it to sit down and be quiet. You must silence the
negative, limiting thoughts in your mind. Even if your goal is totally
outrageous, you must remain open to the possibilities of achieving it
if you intend to succeed. There will be plenty of time for a “reality
One of the ways you can start over-riding your
destructive self-talk, is to create two or three positive affirmations
that will help you attract whatever it is you want. For example, in the
case of getting in better physical condition, you might start
affirming, "Every day, I am becoming healthier and healthier." You
could add to that, "I am enjoying my exercise time and making healthier
It's important, when designing affirmations, to
make sure they are positive and in the present tense. Saying "I will be
. . ." will cause your sub-conscious mind to keep your goal out in
front of you. Remember, your sub-conscious mind does not know the
difference between what is real and what is vividly imagined. This is
one of the reasons Olympic athletes and other sports figures have been
able to effectively use visualization to enhance their training. A
swimmer, for example, who vividly imagines the race will be sending
messages to his body and the associated muscles will be firing.
sure your affirmations are stated in the positive is equally important
since your sub-conscious mind does not recognize negatives. If I ask
you not to think of a purple kangaroo, what happens? …exactly!
Your Ideal Life — In addition to reading and reciting your
affirmations, devote some time each day to visualizing your life as you
would like it to become. This need not take a long time. Usually ten or
fifteen minutes is sufficient. See your goal as having already occurred
and see yourself enjoying your ideal life. Really get into it. Engage
all your senses — sound, taste, touch, add color, etc. If you want a
home near the ocean, hear the sound of the breaking waves. Smell the
salt air. You have the idea.
Take Inspired Action — After you
have put yourself, mentally, in the place of having what you
want, ask for guidance. For example, in the case of starting your own
business, you might ask: “What can I do next to build my successful
home based business?” or in the case of an exercise program, “What
action could I take, right now, to get in shape, reach my ideal weight
and enjoy the process?”
You will notice that you are receiving
ideas you may not have considered before. This is because you have
first created the vision of what you want and put your energy in
alignment with having it. From this point of attraction, you are
receiving "inspired action" as opposed to what I call "gerbil
action." The latter is what most people are doing. They
that if they just take enough action, they'll get the result they want.
While this may eventually work, it's a much harder way to go about it.
down whatever pops up into your mind. Even if an idea seems absurd,
write it down anyway. This simple technique has been used successfully
by some of the greatest achievers throughout history. People like
Thomas Edison, Andrew Carnegie and Henry Ford used this simple
technique. They called it, “sitting for ideas.” Whatever you choose to
call it, it is well worth the time you spend doing it.
Give Up — Don’t quit. Just sit for your allotted time period and let
your sub-conscious mind feed you ideas. You may have a thought “pop”
into your consciousness and you will surely uncover creative ways to
accomplish your goal. If you do this simple exercise for thirty days,
you’ll have an arsenal of creative ideas from which to draw and you’ll
be on your way to attracting your most cherished goal.
in which you do this is important. First, see yourself as already being
in possession of your desire, affirming that it is yours. Then, and
only then, ask what "next action" you can take to bring it to you.
the way, never ask "how" you are going to achieve a goal. Asking how
causes your brain to shift to it's logical, analytical left hemisphere
which will return an answer of "I don't know how." Hint: if
knew how, you'd already have what you want.
On the other hand,
asking "what" engages your right brain hemisphere which is visual,
spatial, and intuitive. This is a much better frame of mind for tasks
like brainstorming and encouraging creativity. ###
Jim Donovan, is the
author of This is
Your Life, Not a Dress Rehearsal.
He is a highly sought after motivational speaker and certified business
coach. To subscribe to his personal development ezine, "Jim's
Jems," and receive a bonus copy of his tele-seminar, "Allowing
Abundance," visit www.JimDonovan.com