created out of a belief that entrenched ways of thinking and acting can
indeed be eradicated. Furthermore, the most effective means for
eliminating habitual thoughts is to go to work on the very system that
created, and continues to support, these thinking habits. This system
is made up of a long list of explanations and defenses that can be
summed up in one word: excuses. Hence, the title of this book is really
a statement to yourself, as well as to that system of explanations
you've created. It is my intention that all excuses be . . . gone!
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Ideas for Eliminating Excuses (part two)
4. Commit to Overcoming Your Inertia
excuses you frequently employ have taken up residence in your mind,
which is dominated by your ego or false self; consequently, they won’t
simply pack up and leave without putting up a fight. Those excuses have
become familiar companions with your ego, and they’re always ready and
willing to leap to your defense.
What I’ve found very useful in
overcoming these ego-enriched justifications is to have a conversation
with myself about who I intend to be and what I’m willing to do in
order to bring this about. I call this my “commitment to overcoming
inertia” conversation. I’m aware of my instinctive impulse to stay with
the familiar, be inactive, and use the convenient excuses I delineated
in Chapter 3. When it comes to fulfilling my commitment to complete a
book at a certain time, for instance, I can always haul out, I’m too busy . . . It’s too big . . . It will take a long time . . . I really don’t have the energy
. . . or what have you. Yet my inertia conversation helps me organize a few techniques to eliminate those excuses.
first thing I do is draw up a contractual agreement with myself that I
look at each day. After conversing with myself about overcoming
inertia, I put a hand-drawn model of the book’s jacket on my desk, so
I’m writing from the perspective of acting as if what I want to
complete is already here. I then continually remind myself that my word
to my highest self (God) is sacred. This alone can push me in the
direction of my writing space. Once I’m seated, all that
procrastination—supported by excuses—disappears.
beginning the paradigm I explain in the next several chapters, I
encourage you to make a commitment to give up inertia. Have a private
conversation with your highest self and be willing to hold on to its
vision for you, even if the old excuses come trotting back hoping for a
sign of weakness on your part. The written agreement helps you
recollect that you’re in the process of redefining yourself. You are
now practicing an Excuses Begone!
philosophy for organizing and running your life.5. Use the Power of Affirmations
can make your entire living space an affirmation by having it reflect
the energy you wish to utilize in fulfilling your personal destiny.
own living space reflects what I wish to have in my life, and I’ve
found this extraordinarily beneficial in underscoring my desire to
cease using excuses of any kind. I affirm everything I am; all that I
wish to become; and all that I treasure with written, photographic,
artistic, and natural symbols of what I believe to be high energy
I stay in alignment with this kind of energy by
surrounding myself with what I wish to attract. For example, I want
love in my life, so I place symbols of it around as affirmations that
I’m aligned with what I want to receive. These include photographs that
inspire thoughts of love, fresh flowers that are God’s gifts of love in
the form of natural beauty, books about love, and written statements
such as these that I’m looking at as I write: “Love . . . binds
everything together in perfect harmony” (Saint Paul); “He whom love
touches not walks in darkness” (Plato); and “He who does not love does
not know God, for God is love” (1 John 4:8).
Not only do you
become what you think about all day long, you become what you avow to
the universe as well. So before you start the Excuses Begone!
paradigm in the following chapters, I urge you to make your home and
working space living testimonials to your highest desires. Affirm that
you’re deserving of all the abundance that the universe has to offer.
Affirm your love for yourself. Affirm that you’re a Divine creation,
and thus willing and open to that Divine Source working on your behalf.
Never underestimate the power affirmations hold in helping you
eradicate the excuses you use to defend the shortcomings of your life.6. Live in a Helpful, Supportive Universe
of the most important decisions you’ll ever make is choosing the kind
of universe you exist in: is it helpful and supportive or hostile and
unsupportive? Your answer to this question will make all the difference
in terms of how you live your life and what kind of Divine assistance
Remember that you get what you think about,
whether you want it or not. So if you’re sure that this is an
unfriendly universe, you’ll look for examples to support this point of
view. You’ll anticipate people attempting to cheat, judge, take
advantage of, and otherwise harm you. You’ll blame the antagonistic,
inhospitable cosmos for not cooperating with you in the fulfillment of
your desires. You’ll point the finger at belligerent folks and bad luck
for the kind of world we all live in. Since this worldview trickles
down into every thought you have, you become a person persistently
looking for occasions to be offended, and therefore in possession of a
whole slew of excuses.
I implore you to see the universe as a warm and supportive one before you begin to apply the Excuses Begone!
paradigm, because you’ll look for evidence to support this view. When
you believe that the universe is friendly, you see friendly people. You
look for circumstances to work in your favor. You expect good fortune
flowing into your life. In other words, you aren’t looking for excuses!
favorite affirmation when I feel stuck or out of sorts is: Whatever I
need is already here, and it is all for my highest good. Jot this down
and post it conspicuously throughout your home, on the dashboard of
your car, at your office, on your microwave oven, and even in front of
your toilet! Remind yourself: I live in a friendly universe that will support any thing or desire that is aligned with the universal Source of all.
Such a stance will be a giant step toward living an Excuses Begone!
that what you want is already here and all you have to do is connect to
it causes you to remember that what you attract is for your highest
good, so you can then let go of the timing issue altogether. Just know
that it is here and will arrive on God’s schedule—as does everything
that makes the journey from nonbeing to being.
I’ve found that
by shifting my belief about the nature of the universe, I attract
whatever I desire into my life. I desire love. I desire peace. I desire
health. I desire happiness. I desire prosperity. Why would I want to
hold the view that our universe is un-
supportive, evil, and
unfriendly? How could I expect the Divine realm to hear me if I’m
asking it to be something other than what it is? Thus, I see my desires
in perfect rapport with how the universe works.
When I pray, I
do so in the spirit of Saint Francis. Rather than ask God to grant him
peace, this inspiring man beseeched God to “make me an instrument of
Thy peace.” In other words, “Let me be like the Source from which I
originated, and then I will rest in the knowing that it must be here,
on its way, and for my highest good.” As you can see, there’s no room
for excuses when you apply this model to your everyday life.
I’ve written and said many times, “When you change the way you look at
things, the things you look at change.” And this applies to the entire
universe.7. Don’t Complain—Don’t Explain!
and explaining are the two huge allies of excuse making. Generally
speaking, when you resort to complaining you employ an excuse of one
kind or another, placing the responsibility for what’s upsetting you on
something or someone external to yourself. Complaining about the way
somebody has performed (or failed to perform) is another way of making
an excuse for why you’re dissatisfied or unhappy. “It’s their fault
that my blood pressure is up—look at how miserably they’ve performed”
or, “How can I enjoy myself at dinner when everyone here at this
restaurant is behaving so incompetently?” are prime examples. Finding
fault with circumstances, the weather, the economy, other people, or
anything else outside yourself is a way to hang on to excuses.
addition to putting an end to complaints, I recommend that you never
attempt to explain. As I’ve pursued a no-excuses mentality, I’ve made
it my policy to keep the things that I wish to accomplish a private
matter. By doing so, I’m never forced into a stance of having to
explain myself. I’m well aware that many of my personal life missions
sound strange and outrageous to others. Consequently, I’ve learned to
avoid sharing my intentions with anyone, outside of a select few whom I
know and trust at a spiritual level. (Anything I might say to these
individuals wouldn’t require me to explain myself in any way.)
problem with having to explain yourself is that in doing so, you
inevitably invoke the ego to do your bidding. You have a tendency to
make yourself right, sensible, and understood; while at the same time
dealing with the doubts and antagonisms of those who don’t share your
views or your optimism. When you keep things to yourself, you stay
connected to your spiritual side, or the place within you that has no
need to be right or to make anyone else wrong.
Since all of
creation comes from the world of nonbeing, if you want to give life to
your dreams and desires—if you wish to manifest your own destiny—then
you must rely on the great Source of all creation, Spirit. The moment
you inject ego into the picture, you invite excuses; and the moment you
invoke those familiar excuses, you stop the creative and the creation
process from manifesting.
As Lao-tzu put it:The Tao gives rise to all forms, yet it has no form of its own . . .Stop striving after admiration. Place your esteem on the Tao.Live in accord with it, share with others the teachings that lead to it,and you will be immersed in the blessings that flow from it.
In more modern language, stop complaining and explaining—your excuses will soon cease.
These, then, are my seven favorite ideas for you to contemplate as you prepare to study the Excuses Begone!
chapter that follows ... presented as a question to ask yourself. Take
some time before you answer, and read through the chapters with a mind
that’s open to everything and attached to nothing. Consider the
examples I present, examine both sides, and stay neutral in your
assessment of how they apply to you today. In other words, simply let
it all come in—particularly the parts that you immediately think don’t
apply to you!
There are no exercises to do, lists to make,
rules to follow, or complicated instructions to memorize. All you need
to do as you read the following pages is keep in mind the words of
Lao-tzu: “If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall
into place.” This paradigm for changing habituated thinking is all
about helping you to correct your mind. Enjoy, as everything else just
falls into place. ###