we had more money, less wrinkles, and more energy are all things we
never even thought about when we were kids. Wouldn’t it be
wonderful to go back to that childhood time when we had no worries?
When was that time? In our 20s? No, that was filled with the
anxiety of finishing up on school and wondering what we were going to
do with the rest of our lives? How about our teen years?
Remember how stressful they were? What would you wear, who would you go
to the dance with, how do you get with the “in” crowd, oh yes and what
about the test on Friday morning?
Fourth grade is about the
perfect grade to look to when trying to become a better person. Fourth
graders are about 10 years old and they don’t have their “grown-up”
worries yet. They just float through their lives going from one fun
thing to another.
You can learn a lot from a child. They have
such wonderful, innocent qualities. Children have not been
yet. They have not loved and lost, they have not made a bad investment;
they have not had a chance to make a lot of major mistakes in their
lives. They just live their lives every day.
As adults we have
become so serious. There are many things to be serious about: paying
bills, getting married, having children, taking care of our parents,
growing older ourselves. We look back on our lives and wonder if we
have made the right decisions. Is our life on the right path? How would
my life be different if I had taken a different road or made a
different personal or career choice?
In the end, we are who we
are. We have three choices in our life: we can spend our entire lives
trying to be something we aren’t, we can feel sorry for ourselves that
we got a bad deal in life and become bitter, or we can accept who we
are and do the best we can.
You will have the happiest life if
you accept who you are and always strive to be the best YOU you can be.
Take the example of Annie. Annie was a happy-go-lucky fourth grader who
had been diagnosed with cancer at the age of five. Once diagnosed with
a brain-tumor she had to undergo rigorous medical treatments every day
for a year. She lost her hair, and some of the time she lost her
energy—but she never gave up. She lived with the disease for several
years and during that time she changed the world of those around her.
biggest inspiration she provided was the message to accept yourself no
matter what and don’t worry about what others are saying. Do
ever feel inadequate at work? Do you feel like you are being held back
because of lack of education, lack of skills, or maybe someone in your
workplace is just holding you back. Often it is really our own hearts
that are holding us back.
When Annie began to lose her hair,
she chose the road most do not. She did not shave the rest of the hair
off, so she had little clumps of hair here and there. Even with her big
smile, she looked a little goofy, but her attitude was so great no one
noticed. When the other patients were covering their bald
up she was embracing hers. She put little sparkly “clippies” on the
clumps that were left. Annie didn’t care what others thought of her,
she had the quiet strength inside that carried her through.
had a faith in something stronger and more important than those
detractors on earth. True, she had never experienced the grown-up
problems we all face, but at her young age she had gone through many
things that adults think they could never do. She did it with the faith
of a child and specifically the heart of a ten-year-old. We could all
learn some valuable lessons from her.
Some traits of a fourth
grader include sleepovers, calling their friends on the telephone,
screaming, giggling and being excited about everything, painting their
nails, listening to music, and wanting to go everywhere! Some things
they do NOT like are: making their beds, cleaning their
doing any chores, and taking naps. They want to be out there living
Look at your own life. Are you getting a little too
worked about “making your bed” and “cleaning your room?” The
is shining and you are missing a beautiful day. If you take some time
out of your structured life and try to add fun to it every day you will
see you can become a better person. There is a reason we love
grandkids. They are generally happy and it is a time you have an excuse
to “be a kid again.”
Annie didn’t care about what she
“didn’t have,” she worked with what she did have. She didn’t have a lot
of hair, but what she did have, she decorated. Maybe you are in a
situation where you are so overwhelmed you are only seeing the
Why not make a new promise to yourself and try to
live like a fourth grader. What were your favorite songs that made you
happy? Download them to your computer or i-pod or go buy the CD. Dance,
laugh, smile, watch old movies. As you become a happier, more content
person, you will see that it flows over to your work-world. If you are
more relaxed and not so worried about consequences, you will be able to
take even greater risks and the outcome will be more wonderful than you
ever thought it could be. What are you waiting for? Get Going
|Sally Tippett Rains
is the author of 10 books including Get Going Girl!
Lessons Learned From A Fourth Grader, Power Publishing
2005, and Inkstone Press.
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