16, August 3, 2009 —
Finley, How to Use the Power of Inner Storms to Live Stress Free
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A Dialogue between Letting Go author Guy Finley and psychologist Dr. Ellen Dickstein
Finley is the founder and director of the non-profit Life of Learning
Foundation. He is author of The Essential Laws of Fearless Living
and Let Go and Live in the Now plus 30 other books and audio programs
in the field of self-transformation. For more information on Guy
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Dr. Ellen Dickstein earned her PhD from Johns
Hopkins University and was a tenured professor of psychology at
Southern Methodist University. She is a leading authority on
stress and anxiety in today’s busy world and is the co-author with Guy
Finley of The Intimate Enemy.
Guy, it seems like there are many paradoxes in the spiritual path, and
I think there is a lot of confusion because we don't understand our
role in the grand universal scheme of Life. One of the paradoxes that
you write about quite frequently is that we can learn to use the power
concealed within inner storms — negative psychological states, like
anger, worry, and fear — to free ourselves from the stress that fills
our modern-day lives. To be able to use negativity to end negativity
sounds like a skill that would be extremely helpful for most people.
Can you explain how a person can use negative states to find the
peaceful, successful, stress-free life that we all long for?
We are presently unable to tap the power contained within interior
storms for one primary reason: When we are enveloped in an
interior storm, we mistakenly believe that there is no difference
between ourselves and the negative thoughts and feelings surging inside
of us. But the fact is, who we really are — our true Self — sits above
the storms that pass through it. Let me ask you a question: if you throw paint into the air, does the air get painted?
ED: Of course not.
Right. Because air and paint have two totally different natures.
Another example is light shining from a lighthouse on a dark, stormy
night. The higher nature of the light allows it to pass right through
rain and wind to ensure the safety of passing ships. In the same way,
our true Self cannot be "made" stressful even through stressful
thoughts and emotions may be passing through us.
Herein lies a
powerful lesson: any time we feel angry, frightened, worried, or
stressed, we can realize that we are not the negative thoughts and
feelings passing through our minds and hearts. We can awaken to the
understanding that our true Self has a different nature and exists in a
higher world than those negative energies. And we can use this simple
truth to begin to examine exactly how negativity justifies its
existence within us.
ED: Can you explain that further?
The first thing we need to understand about interior storms is that
they are produced by what I will call "unnatural" opposing forces.
storms are formed on Earth (and in space) when two opposing energies
collide with one another. For instance when warm air from the tropics
meets a chilly arctic air mass over the North Atlantic, a storm is
formed as the two systems exchange hot and cold air and moisture
creating wind, waves, clouds and rain. The storm is the evidence of an
imbalance that is created as the two systems strive to find
equilibrium. In nature, storms are always resolved in a relatively
short time because the energies that cause the storm in the first place
just plain wear themselves out.
The beauty of natural storms is
that they are always positive. Everything that comes out of the natural
reconciliation of their forces serves to produce something new — a new
form, a new possibility, a new life. Natural storms freshen the air.
They nourish trees and polish mountaintops. They wipe clean and renew
what was soiled and aged.
ED: So what does all of this have to do with interior storms?
GF: As above, so below.
ED: Can you explain?
Sure. When someone doesn't share our values or ideals related to a
particular subject, isn't it our tendency to see that person as being a
problem, meaning he or she obviously lacks our level of wisdom, i.e.,
he's an "idiot", or worse!
GF: So the values I hold collide with the values they hold. Do you know these moments, Ellen?
ED: Yes. Quite well.
Right, we call it an argument. But isn’t an argument just a collision
of forces? Isn’t an argument a storm? And here’s the amazing part:
unlike storms in nature, storms inside of human beings aren’t always
positive — and don’t always get reconciled.
Any form of
resentment for example (which all of us harbor in some degree) is proof
of an unnatural, unreconciled storm that serves nothing but negativity.
example would be getting stressed over living up to our own, or someone
else’s expectations. All stress does is make us hurt, and steals the
creative energy we need to accomplish whatever it is we have set out to
do. Yet, especially in today’s world, everyone is stressed out. The
inherent power contained in colliding energies — i.e. our wish for
excellence and the forces that stand in our way — is wasted by our own
minds resisting the storm.
This is where it gets exciting. When
we see this action at work inside of ourselves, we begin to ask the
question, “Why doesn't that storm inside of me produce exactly the same
outcome as does nature when she brings opposing forces together to
produce new clarity, purity, freshness, and perfection?”
So the answer to the question is that in nature, opposing forces aren’t
resisted, which allows them to be reconciled so that something positive
and new can be created. But the human mind resists the healing energy
of storms and continues in a cycle of negativity.
Yes. Exactly. We are subject to these storms because there is a part of
us — our lower nature — that defines who we are, and how life should
go. This lower nature is the cause of our stress because it creates
images, clings to them, and works to protect them in spite of how they
cause harm to ourselves or to others.
So the very things that we think are valuable and make life valuable —
our dreams of how life should go — are the very things that are
preventing us from living a true and valuable life.
Yes and the "paradox" isn't that there is anything wrong with one's
wish to achieve, to be excellent, to want to develop his or her mind.
There is a natural upwelling inside of a human being to pursue
excellence. It is natural to want to understand ourselves, deeply and
through as many avenues as possible. But at a certain point in our
lives we can start to see that there is an inherent limitation in
wanting to know ourselves through the world outside of us. And this
limitation begins to become clear when we see that all of the storms in
our life are connected to our ideas of how we think life should go.
then one day it dawns on us that these “storms” we experience aren’t
coming to take something from us; they are evidence of Life trying to
show us where we are resisting Its infinite intelligence. You see, the
storms of life and the immense creative energies contained within them,
are always producing forms. After all, what is life but energy
producing form after form — in an ever more perfect upward
when we begin to see that we suffer from these storms because of all
these ideas we hold of ourselves, and we realize that being in a storm
— if we deal with it properly — can actually begin to wash away these
images and give us something new and beautiful, then we can actually
begin to welcome storms.
Yes. Most of us have heard the passage attributed to St. Paul: "I live
and die daily." This statement speaks to an order of ourselves waiting
to be realized that doesn't just "live" moment to moment, but that
"uses" each and every event in life to die to what is old so that
something new and better can be born. All of these ideas we are
discussing point to the possibility of a completely different order of
relationship with life — where instead of fighting with storms, we
learn to use them to wake ourselves out of the dream that is the cause
of our conflict with reality — which is the cause of all useless human
So, instead of allowing the lower self to justify its
stress, to blame others, or to judge itself, all of which only
accelerates the effect of the storm, we can do something all together
new and different: we can expose the whole of our Self to the whole of
the storm, and then let the natural, beautiful Intelligence that
actually produces these storms, do what it will with us, which is to
lead us through a process of transformation into a new and more perfect
creature … and that is quite literal!
You've said that every storm passes, and it's true. Even in the
unconscious person, eventually they get worn out and the anger, or
worry, or resentment goes away (at least for awhile). The real issue
seems to be, what am I doing in the moment of the storm to allow it to
do its work of transformation?
Yes, that's the whole thing. If we can learn to be storm watchers
instead of storm fighters, we have a chance to let the stress in that
storm do in our soul what it was always intended to do, which is to
strengthen and renew us, to produce inside each of us a whole new Life. ###
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