In this issue: FEATURE: Elinor Stutz, The Sales Personality Michael Michalko, Carpe Diem Linda Sapadin, Can Men and Women Be Friends? Guy Finley, Enter Into The Untroubled Now Sharon Elaine, Love Yor Body... One Day at a Time Gabriella Kortsch, Cellular Responsibility Wider Screenings, Beyond the Boomers Events Reviews Earlier issues Submit Article
Now I Get It! by Dr Linda Sapadin
Inspiring, empowering advice for living and loving!
"How to Get The Wealth And Freedom You Want By Leveraging the Science of Getting Rich"
"Yes, you read that right ... You can
become wealthy when you have the right
science on your side!"
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Inspired Science of Getting Rich Program does far more than
simply complement Wattles' works. It sets the teachings of
Wallace Wattles out in such a way that if you follow the process, you
are destined to take yourself to a whole new level of awareness,
personal accomplishment, and wealth creation.
Day by day our
belief system continues to shape our thoughts, habits, actions and
ultimately, our whole life. These are buried deep in the subconscious
mind, and we are not aware of them most of the time.
fit and can’t be applied to our beliefs because they are masked by our
actions. However, the subconscious mind is a powerful force. Why?
subconscious operates with the input of beliefs that are installed
there. So, what is placed inside our subconscious dictates how
the mind works. We know that our actions are the products of our
thoughts. Where the mind goes, the person follows. We are essentially
slaves to the dictates of our minds.
But with the Inspired
Science of Getting Rich Program you can train your subconscious mind to
think according to the way you want. You are the master of your
mind, so you can therefore bend it, twist it, and direct it.
my son Glenn was asked by a reporter what he thought of his mother
being an advice columnist, he replied: “My mum giving advice is like
the Cookie Monster being paid to eat cookies. She’s a natural!”
I reflected on his words, I realized what a long way I’ve come – from
being a frightened child – unable to speak up about anything - to being
an inspirational psychologist who knows what makes people tick and who
delights in sharing my knowledge.
As time has gone on,
I’ve developed a unique style of giving advice. I avoid quick quips
that trump complexity, such as “dump your boyfriend” or “quit your
complaining” and I shun an elitist approach that assumes that you
should listen to me because I know how you should live your life.
my writing style respects the complexity of people’s lives, offering
them the skills, knowledge and wisdom that they need to enhance their
living. I seek to inspire readers to become more enlightened,
empowered and enthusiastic people.
The topics I write about are widespread. They include:
* Personal Growth – How to become empowered (no more feeling like a victim!)
* Enhancing Communication – For people to “get” you, you often need to enhance your communication skills.
* Enriching Intimate Relationships — We fall in love; love is blind. Eventually we regain our sight; then what?
* The Art of Parenting — Parenting is more art than science. But like art, we need to acquire the skills to become true pros.
* How to Deal With Difficult People
— Fasten your seat belts; you may be in for a bumpy ride as you learn
the complex skills needed to deal with difficult personalities.
* How People Change
— Knowledge is only the first step. Overcoming resistance is the
second. Learn how to help yourself through the change process.
I’d like to share with you an abbreviated version of one of my favorite articles.
This one is entitled Can Men and Women Be Friends?
are those who say ‘No’. Heterosexual men and women can‘t be true
friends. Blame the hormones! Attribute it to jealousy from a spouse.
Point the finger at the predatory nature of men (and aggressive women)
who “want only one thing”. Or simply remember that men and women come
from different planets and interplanetary friendships have never
Despite the naysayers, what does the research show and
what do the experts say? Since I am one of the experts (this was my
dissertation topic), I’d like to share my findings with you.
Jane Austen’s time, when men and women lived in separate worlds, their
primary attraction to each other was romantic or sexual. In today’s
world, however, men and women live, work and play together. They are
fellow students, colleagues, committee members, bridge partners, and
more. This cultural shift has created a new norm in which people
generally keep their sexual involvement and friendships separate.
some friendships turn into romantic relationships? Yes. And thank
goodness for that; it’s been the beginning of many a great marriage.
Issues, however, may become challenging when friends are not on the
same page with the nature of their friendship or when the friendship
becomes threatening to the committed relationship.
you’ve got a challenge in life, what do you do? Do you give up, saying
this is just too difficult, confusing, or baffling for me? Or, being
the wise person you are, do you deal with the challenge?
Here are some guidelines on how to deal with the challenge:
THE RELATIONSHIP – All friendships, even same-sex ones, have ambiguous
and changing boundaries. It can be a shock to you when you view Joan as
a good friend and her behavior indicates to you that she views you as
no more than a “tennis buddy”. With cross-sex friendships, the
ambiguous boundaries can be even more hazy. So, take the time to define
the relationship – both in your head and in a discussion with the other
DEALING WITH THE ATTRACTION – Let’s say one or both of
you do feel a physical attraction to the other. Will that doom the
friendship? Or can you learn to live with it? Is there such a thing as
harmless flirtation? Innocent sexual bantering? Sexual attraction
without the desire to act on it? We too often make the mistake of
looking for purity in relationships. Some believe that the only
workable cross-sex friendship is between two homely, asexual people – a
nerd and a nun. Stop fooling yourself. You can be attracted to your
friend and choose not to make that attraction the essence of your
relationship. Why? The short answer: because you are more than your
DEALING WITH OTHERS’ FEELINGS – Other people,
particularly spouses/committed partners, may feel threatened by your
cross-sex friendship. Do not discount their feelings. If the shoe were
on the other foot, you’d probably feel the same way. It is your
responsibility to work to integrate the friendship in some manner into
your committed relationship Try including your spouse in on the
friendship, either by all of you getting together at times or by not
keeping the relationship secret or apart from the rest of your life.
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