How to Use Positive
Affirmations.
by Ton Pascal
Positive Affirmations, how do they work? What changes can I expect?
Affirmations
are one of the tools you can use to radically change your life. There
is nothing new age, mystic, trendy and fashionable about it.
Affirmation is part of an ancient ‘The Secret’ re-discovered and
brought back to the limelight by TV. Film and press, transforming with
it several people into very wealthy gurus.
Affirmations have been around since man found the use of language and
there is no secret ritual to use it.
You can basically have anything you want! This tool used correctly,
will help you change grow and heal yourself.
I
want to introduce you to the basics of positive affirmations and
positive thinking. Later on you may want to surf the web and find out
more about this fascinating subject.
When you start the
affirmations give yourself at least a thirty days tryout period.
Depending on the seriousness of the problem you may need more time and
more affirmations to achieve your goals. Talk to your family and
friends about your resolution to change and ask them for their support.
If it is a radical change you are envisioning a life-coach will be very
useful suggesting the best approach to use and to keep you motivated.
This is a big step. Opening up to relatives and friends show your
commitment to changes and solidify your intentions.
Don’t get
discourage, impatient and put off if nothing happens in a week or two.
Just remember that you didn’t become this way overnight. It took time
and very likely it will take time to produce the changes you want.
Affirmations can and will transform your life patterns and perception.
Affirmations
support your positive thinking and together they form a very powerful
and effective tool. They function as ‘key words’ of positive messages
‘dictated’ directly into the self. You consciously connect and direct
your positive thinking to areas of your life that you want to change or
heal. It works as a reminder to the self, keeping positive messages at
the forefront of consciousness.
The benefits of affirmations are medically well established and it
really works.
On the other
hand negative thoughts are just as powerful.
So be aware of your negative thoughts as they are on essence a
self-destructive ‘key words’ psychological mechanism that makes your
life rotten.
First, lets check how aware you are of your thoughts.
Do you have regularly more positive or more negative thoughts running
through you mind?
Only you can honestly answer that. So get ready.
If
your subconscious is throwing out lots of negative thoughts then you
must do some ‘brain-cleaning’ before moving into the desired new
positive affirmations mode.
This may be very familiar to you, as
your mind swirl with thoughts as: “I don’t like this, I like that, I
feel great, I hate him/her, I am afraid of, I don’t want them
to
see me like this, I am not sure about that, I feel rotten”.
Your
mind incessantly interprets your experiences as an internal dialogue.
These thoughts are generated on a deep level by your beliefs which were
formed and accumulated from the time you were born.
We can’t control most exterior events of our lives but we do control
how we interpret and react to it.
We create our own reality.
When we change our interpretation a change takes place in our reality.
So become aware of your thoughts. If you change your thinking big
changes will happen in your life.
Take a minute to think about why you are reacting to something or
someone.
Get
in touch with your self. Accept the fact that these thoughts may have
helped you in the past but they are out of place now that you have
chosen to accept only positive thoughts and a positive living.
While doing the new affirmations your mind will let go of the negative
messages even if you are not aware if it.
Watch
out also for a resistance within yourself. With certain affirmations
you may question, “What in the heck” – “are you kidding?”
It is
ok, it is an old habit that is about to be changed. You grew up and had
these thoughts for almost all of your life. Now it is time to form a
new habit and you need lots of practice.
Lets get started.
What would you like your life to be?
Think about it and write it down.
Fulfillment with your job, a happy family, better health, financial
security?
Don’t hold back, go for it.
For the beginners the easiest way is to choose and write down two or
three things you want changed.
For
example, if you feel unloved and financially strapped, one of your
affirmations could be: “ I am now ready to receive more love and
wealth” and you may add “from the vast supply of the universe”
If
you also wrote down ‘low self-esteem’ the affirmation could
be:
“I am an awesome man/woman and I feel good about myself”
Be creative, upfront and fearless.You are making a statement to
yourself of your intentions.
Here are a few simple guidelines:
1- Present
tense.
Start all your affirmations in the present tense and have then already
accomplished. You are telling your conscious mind that the affirmative
action is taking place NOW and it is final. I AM HAPPY, I
CHOOSE
JOY, I HAVE CONFIDENCE. It is stronger and much more powerful
than, I will be happy, or I am becoming happy, and so on.
2- How to
phrase your affirmations.
You can copy from an extensive list you’ll find on the Internet, use
the examples below or simply write it down in your own words. Do it as
plain or as poetic as you talk. “ I am energetic and full of
enthusiasm. I am safe, I am a prosperous man/woman. I attract positive
people, I release my anger.” Make copies of it and leave it around the
house, car and your office desk. The more you are reminded of the
positive affirmations the more your mind will accept the new concept
you are bringing forth. You will create a new positive reality and the
universal energy will do the rest to connect this good energy to other
positive energies.
3- Positive
means Positive.
Your subconscious usually focuses on the verb and relates it to past
experiences. If you have fears, phobia or whatever is the case, be
careful with your choice of words. If you are afraid and say I am not
SCARED, it will register I AM SCARED. The NOT was assimilated and
ignored by your mind. Say instead I AM CORAGEOUS or I AM FEARLESS.
Don’t use affirmations that have a negative attachment. You can
comfortably use I ACCEPT, I CHOOSE, I DESERVE, I AM. I
developed
one affirmation to counter act the negative thought that eventually
peeks through, so I suggest you add it to the batch, “I
accept
only the good and the positive.”
Starting as you wake up,
say the affirmations out loud or in your head for five times. Repeat
the same process three to four more times during the day, the last one
just before going to bed.
I suggest you end the affirmation session
with a thank you note. Gratitude will reinforce and validate
the
affirmations. Thank God, Jesus, a Spirit, the Force, the Universe or
whatever you believe and feel comfortable with.
Visualize
your affirmations with feelings and emotion. See yourself exactly as
you are stating. It will add an extra psychological dimension
and
have a much deeper impact on your mind. Using this method of
visualization early in the morning and at night will make your
affirmations much more successful.
You can use
affirmations to help build self-confidence, self-esteem,
self-improvement and personal growth. It can also help conquer your
fears and anger management. Affirmations have been successfully used to
relieve anxiety and depression and are an excellent tool for weight
control.
If you check the web under Positive Affirmations
you’ll find a multitude of books and affirmations to help you. I
suggest Louise Hay’s http://www.aplacefortheheart.co.uk/ and
http://www.dreamyourlifepositively.com/
Here are a few examples of affirmations by topics:
Love
“I am ready to love and to be loved”
"I am surrounded by love"
"I love and accept myself exactly as I
am"
"The love I give out returns to me multiplied"
"I am a loving, beautiful creative person and this is reflected in my
relationships with others"
“ I am now ready to receive more love, support and wealth from the vast
supply of the universe”
“I see the beauty in my surroundings and I radiate joy and love”
Wealth
"I deserve all that is good and prosperity in my life"
"Money flows to me from expected and unexpected sources"
“I deserve to collect all the wealth and the rich rewards of my success”
"My income is constantly increasing"
“I am well, I prosper, I am successful and I am
free”
"Abundance like a river flows in my life"
“I allow all the immense wealth and goodness of the universe to easily
flow into myself”
Self-esteem –
personal
“I now have the power to bring about all the positive changes in my
life I desire”
“I am protected, guided, and connected with the highest good at all
times”
“My personality is radiant with success, beauty and happiness”
“I am an awesome man/woman and I feel good about myself”
“I am at peace with my choices and what life throws in my
path”
“I recognize and honor my talents, abilities, and skills”
“I choose to live my life the way that makes me happy”
“I am positively changing my life now, for the better in every possible
way.
Have a great journey
Much love
Ton Pascal
http://www.dreamyourlifepositively.com/
Ton Pascal is a self thought , self help advocate and author.
“My goal is to help as many people as possible how to stop living on
the periphery of life.
Dream Your
Life Positively will show you how to stop living on the
periphery of yourself.
Your
thoughts and dreams will provide for you a rich, meaningful and
abundant life; this is the Law of Attraction at work. It will enable
you to create the map of your life’s journey. It is not just being
alive that makes life worth living, but the depth and sense you bring
to your life.”
FEATURE: Dr John F. Demartini, Read and Write Your Goals 
